May 10, 2012

lesson learned

I somewhat feel the need to apologize to those of you I offended when I recently posted a love note for my sister's birthday. I find it unfortunate that there are those that feel because I love one person it must mean I love others less. The love of the heart is not a balance scale, where one goes up the other goes down. I can see how my use of the word "favorite" does seem exclusive, but does not every relationship have their own dynamic and everyone have many "favorites" in different aspects of those relationships? It was not my intent to hurt feelings and certainly not make anyone feel less-loved. I understand that such a demonstration of adoration may not be appropriate for public display because of this and I will keep future demonstrations personal. I just feel bad, I guess I'm better with lipsticks than people.

8 comments:

  1. Sad that it turned out that way. I enjoyed it because I also love your sister and it reminded me of how much I love her and my own sister, and all of my favorite friends.

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  2. I loved reading the post on your sister as well. It was her birthday and I think it was totally acceptable to give her a special shout out on her special day!

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  3. Silliness, it's all silliness. It's your blog you can write what you want. It's about how you feel, what you think, and what's on your mind. And what could have possibly offended anyone about what you had to say about your sis? It was her birthday, does she not deserve a little spot light? You are so right about having many "Favorites" in different aspects. For instance; Neil was my favorite brother to talk to late at night when one or both of us would be coming home from a date or activity. Colin was my favorite to go hang out at the movies with. Jace was my favorite to yell at...hmmm...there must be something more positive than that to say about him :) My point is that sometimes, Neil is my favorite brother, sometimes Colin or sometimes one of the others depending on the memory or experience that is being discussed. I don't think that there is any need to apologize and I don't think that you need to shy away from these personal types of posts. If others don't like it they don't have to read it, but the rest of us love reading about who and what you love. I suppose you could be democratic and just write a beautiful spotlight post about all of your favorites...just let me know when you plan to do one on me so I don't miss it ;)

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  4. PS I hope you saved a copy of the post for your own benefit. It was beautiful and worthy of keeping a record of in a journal or something.

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  5. AnonymousMay 11, 2012

    You have no need to make an apology, Michelle! You are so sweet to everyone and I remember when you were younger you used to say "he/she is my best," or "this/that is my best." You had so many bests that I think it covered everyone and everything and I don't think you have changed. When anyone is around you they know that you are giving 100% to them!!
    By the way you are MY BEST (one of them) and you know it!!

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  6. I thought your sister shout out was super sweet! Sad that things were misunderstood!

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  7. AnonymousMay 17, 2012

    hey, michelle. i like to read your blog to keep up on what's going on with you and the fam. i think it's ridiculous someone would be offended by you publicly and beautifully advertising your love for a family member. boo to anyone who couldn't accept that.
    Naomi

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  8. Umm I must have missed this "shout out" and all the drama involved!

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